Sunday, August 10, 2008

What would I have done differently that first year?

So, based on a previous post, I was asked if I would have done anything different that first year that Jeff passed away.

To be honest, that first year was a blur and I can't really tell you exactly what I did that first year -- other than change diapers, get kids off to school and attend therapy. I guess the biggest thing I would've changed was not have talked to any professionals (accountants, construction workers, etc.) about anything that first year. And yes, I made that mistake and looking back, I got taken, MULTIPLE times. So I'm the living example of what you shouldn't do. I got ripped off from a contractor and really didn't make the best decisions financially based on what I thought was good advice from someone I thought I trusted. Unfortunately, it was good advice for him because he made money on it, not me. Big mistakes and sometimes I can see they have led to some major trust issues I have when dealing with professionals today, but I'm working through that. It will take time, but I'll get there. In the meantime, take your time. ONLY do what is required of you, nothing more.

I'll be honest, sometimes I beat myself up too much for the bad choices I made, but I know I can't do that. Instead, I try to make the right decisions now and I've learned so much about myself along the way.

So, that's what I would've done differently that first year. Anyone else?

Until next time, you might be young, but you're not alone,

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